Creating an Inner Coach that Supports Resilience and Self-Confidence

I heard a colleague say, “Choose your words the way you would your clothes… to feel good.” Now that it’s fall and we’re clearing out our summer clothes for what feels good to wear in the new season, let’s clear out our negative self-thoughts and only wear words that contribute to our self-esteem.

What I know is that the words we feed ourselves turn into how we feel. Years ago, I had the privilege of studying with Angeles Arrien, a cross-cultural anthropologist who told the following story: She was at a conference of shamans, and one of them was wearing a necklace with two different wolf faces. One face was snarly and biting, and the other was a sweet, cuddly face of a wolf pup. Angeles asked the shaman about the necklace and what meaning it had. This was her answer: “I wear this necklace to remind myself of the two parts of myself and the two different voices within me. One voice is angry and destructive, and the other is gentle and kind.” Angeles asked her which voice she heard most often and the shaman responded, “whichever one I feed the most.”

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The Inner Critic as a Creativity Vampire

This is a great video describing the Inner Critic as a creativity vampire and tips for what to with the inner vamp:

3 Things to Zap Creativity Vampires

The Fat on Dieting in the New Year

A special New Year’s “thanks” is in order to Tara Parker-Pope, health writer for the New York Times Magazine, for setting us on the right track as we begin 2012. While the television stations blast us with dieting ads and the magazine covers are plastered with tips for taking off pounds, Tara’s lead article in the January 1st magazine focused on how dieting leaves people “feeling far more hungry and preoccupied with food than before they lost the weight,” setting up a “sort of ‘post-dieting syndrome’ directed toward making us put on weight.”

Finally a start-to-the year article that does not promote the benefits of dieting but actually tells the raw truth about its impact. “After you’ve lost weight, your brain has a greater emotional response to food,” says Michael Rosenbaum, an obesity researcher at Columbia University. “You want it more, but the areas of the brain involved in restraint are less active.” That’s exactly what the diet companies are banking on. The more they get people hooked on dieting, the more they assure that the body will slow down its ability to burn calories and will create a “perfect storm for weight regain.” These are the conditions necessary for getting people to pledge their dollars toward the next weight loss gimmick and remain stuck in the process of losing and gaining all over again.

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