Creating an Inner Coach Stronger than the Inner Critic

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Creating an Inner Coach Stronger than the Inner Critic

A training program designed by The Resilience Group

Project managers have the hard job of dealing with a wide range of stressors, creative clients who want things their way, tight time lines, budget restrictions and at the same time, need to manage up, and manage down. It’s hard work.

When a manager’s core competencies are met with self-doubt, their power can be instantly diminished. When projects go south, or when a client is angered, or when feedback is critical, it is easy for even competent people to get triggered by the voice of an inner critic that creates anxiety and cramps creative problem solving. That voice says things like “I’m just not up to the job”…. or “they will finally find me out as an imposter” or “I’m just not smart enough.”

At The Resilience Group we believe that this negative self-talk is a major factor in sabotaging feelings of accomplishment and satisfaction. Most of the time the voice is selling false truths, fertilized by self-doubt, and not a reflection of actual skill and capability.

We have developed a training program that teaches the origins of the mind’s negativity bias, how the multiple variations of inner criticism negatively influence our emotional state and how this negative influence leads to a loss of confidence & courageous behaviors. Our Inner-Coaching Model™ for Resilience teaches specific strategies that help managers develop an Inner Coach stronger than the inner critic—an internal voice that can support confidence, boost resilience, refocus energy and move forward towards the next challenge.

For more information about The Resilience Group and a further exploration of how bringing our training to your organization can help, please contact either Beth or Jane.

 

The Resilience Group

Dr. Beth Weinstock, One Wynnewood Court, Narberth, PA 19072 bweinstock@comcast.net 610 664-2996

Dr. Jane Shure, 214 E. Gorgas Lane, Philadelphia, 19110, JKShure@comcast.net, 215 588-6914849-3153

The Person of the Leader: Becoming a Good Coach for Yourself

Good leadership involves the skills of thinking smart, making fast decisions, taking risks, being creative and maintaining resilience even when work is stressful. It involves not only managing tasks well, but managing oneself in order to be a positive influence on others.

We know that many leaders, even successful ones, can be bogged down by inner criticism and negative self-talk that says “I’m just not smart-enough,” “I’ll can’t manage the job,” or “what if I say something stupid and embarrass myself?” This self-defeating mindset increases our stress levels, thwarts courage, creates anxiety, dampens self-confidence and stifles strong leadership. It makes it hard for us to be good advocates for ourselves and also for those who report to us.

We can develop an Inner Coach stronger than the Inner Critic if we learn how to navigate our inner world skillfully – our inner world of thoughts, feelings and self-talk. When we are able to work constructively with our negative self-talk, we increase the likelihood of success for ourselves and our teams. While we cannot be immune to stress or setbacks, we can know how to adapt to new circumstances, align actions with the values of our workplace and make a difference as we move forward.

Inner-Coaching™ involves shifting from a negative mind-set to a positive mindset, the willingness to challenge our thinking when it might not square with reality, our knowing tools for best managing our stress, practicing ways to counteract the voice of the inner critic and using strategies that support us to stay resilient when things are not going our way.