The Inner Critic


Each of us knows that negative inner voice – the one that tells us we can’t do something new, we can’t get that promotion at work-that we’re just not good enough. So who is this inner critic, how did it get there, and how do we confront it? The answer lies in self-compassion. On this Voices in the Family, we’ll talk to self-compassion expert Dr. Kristin Neff, as well as resilience coach Dr. Beth Weinstock about to to put these inner demand in their place.

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Mindfulness at work: How do you come across?

 

Dr. Daniel Ames from Columbia Business School did a study recently that asserted that most people don’t know how they come across at work, whether it’s too pushy or too passive. Well what you come across as at work, and whether or not you are an effective leader, or if you are aware of it or not comes down to mindfulness. And we’ll talk about exactly that on this Voices in the Family with Dr. Jane Shure and CEO Sue Schick of United Healthcare. Jane Shure is a co-founder of The Resilience Group and a coach to businesses, teaching employees about their inner coach and how that plays into their resilience – which informs their life at work. She also writes for the Huffington Post. Sue Schick is the CEO of United Healthcare of the Greater Philadelphia Region and the recipient of many awards, including the Paradigm Award. She is a proponent and an example of leadership that involves mindfulness and mindfulness training. She is a CEO as well as a healthcare blogger.

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Reflecting on What Empowered My Sense of Confidence and Self

Yesterday in the mail, I received a newly published book written by my friend, colleague and mentor, Dan Gottlieb. Thumbing through the first few pages of The Wisdom We’re Born With: Restoring Our Faith in Ourselves, I began to reflect back on the lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Dan over the 35 years of knowing him.

We first met when I was a ripe old age of 25, fresh out of graduate school, eagerly engaged in family therapy training at The Family Institute of Philadelphia. Dan was my teacher for the first half of a three and a half year program. He stood out as markedly different from most of his peers in that he wasn’t threatened by my burgeoning feminism. He loved it, engaged it, challenged it and has steadfastly supported it.

How powerful it was way back when to share dinner with my teacher and have him look at me and say in a non-threatening way: “I don’t think you’re really as confident as you seem to be.” Trusting it was OK to be honest, I replied, “Of course I’m not.” We held a gaze and in that moment I knew…

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Musings From a Psychotherapist About the Effects of Secrecy and Shame in Our Lives

Last night, I had the privilege of leading a talk-back following a production of Neil LaBute’s “In a Dark, Dark House.” I read the script for the play last month and thought the playwright brilliant for his ability to comprehend what actually goes on as a result of childhood sexual abuse. Himself a survivor of child sexual abuse, LaBute crafted a play that asks the audience to bear some pain, experience some confusion and appreciate some of the complexities involved when a person grows up living with being sexualized way before they’re even old enough to know about sex.

I woke up today thinking about the play. I thought about how…

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Outsmarting Stress and Negativity

A number of months ago, I had the good fortune of traveling to India with my family. I wasn’t so keen on taking this trip, fearing that I’d get depressed from seeing the country’s massive poverty. Having read many novels written by Indian authors, I was primed to witness people living in conditions that I’d never before set eyes on.

For a number of months, I had a nagging sense of worry that got me feeling way more stressed than I wanted to be. The Inner Worrier would beckon me from out of the blue, telling me to worry about how I was going to feel while in India. It got me doubting whether I would feel OK or not — and got me squirming…

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