In her bestselling book, Daring Greatly, Brene Brown explains that “you can’t have true courage unless you open yourself up to vulnerability.” Like many others, Dr. Brown was raised to believe that “vulnerability was weakness.” Her social research of 18 years has debunked that myth and led her to discover the keys to understanding how to “show up and be seen. To ask for what you need, to talk about what you’re feeling. To have the hard conversations.”
In the last 15 years of my career as a clinical psychologist and leadership coach I have been increasingly working in the corporate sphere, coaching leaders to find their own voice, to show up with confidence and sustain resilience through adversity. When I began this work I spent time wondered how safe it was to show up as truly myself in the traditional work world environment. Psychologists, after all, can appear threatening to folks who think we can read their minds. We can dress in casual clothes and generally be funkier than our corporate clients. I used to worry that I would appear less professional when I approached clients with my patient interest in their stories, empathy for their struggles and passionate curiosity about their life’s dreams.
Have you ever wanted to feel more confident, be less afraid of criticism, and more willing to speak your mind? If so, then I’ve got the book for you. Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message by Tara Mohr addresses the challenge that finds women, all too often, “sitting on their big ideas rather than sharing them and holding back their most provocative questions rather than asking them.”
It’s back to school and back to work and that usually means lots of prep, lots to organize and lots of attention to stress and anxiety. Why is it that we rev up our worrying as we shift into the fall season? One answer lies in the nature of our brains.
The news that apparel company J Crew is now making a size 000 (that’s two sizes smaller than a 0!) created a stir among some feminists who say the new size idealizes the desire to be too thin. While the company says it is trying to appeal to a petite Asian market, critics say that the move is just another example of the “vanity sizing” trend in fashion – downsizing label sizing so customers, both women and men, feel better about the clothes they try on and buy. Today on Radio Times we’ll talk about how size influences shoppers, how manufacturers make sizing decisions and why the size you wear doesn’t say much about the size you are. Our guests are MARIE-EVE FAUST, program director of the Fashion Merchandising Program at Philadelphia University and ED GRIBBIN whose company Alvanon consults with clothing manufacturers about fit and sizing. We’ll also hear from psychotherapist JANE SHURE about the negative influence of vanity sizing. – See more at: whyy.org