Wake-Up Calls Inspired My Change From Overdrive and Sleep Deprived

Wake-up calls come from many sources and, at their best, incite us to transform the ways we live. Recently, I heard Arianna Huffington speak about her realization that she needed to make concrete changes in the number of hours she worked and slept. The co-founder and editor-in-chief of The Huffington Post Media Group broke her cheekbone and gashed her eye as a result of a fall brought on by exhaustion and lack of sleep. Surrendering to the realization that something had to change (and then making changes), Arianna is now inviting us to challenge assumptions we hold about what’s needed to live well and succeed.

Promoting her latest book, Thrive, Arianna shared with a Philadelphia audience, “We’re all living under the collective delusion that to succeed, you need to work 24/7.” She went on to say that wherever she’s speaking, she…

Read More…

Arianna Huffington Calls Upon Us to Turn Inward for Wisdom and Wonder

When was the last time you listened to the sweet sound of silence? When was the last time you decided to close the door and just let yourself be, with nowhere to go and nothing to do?

Arianna Huffington gave a talk last week in Philadelphia promoting her 14th book, Thrive, in which she implores us to slow down and make the time to renew ourselves. After years of international productivity, over drive, sleep deprivation and now at the height of her success, Huffington is convinced that too many of us have shrunk ourselves down to to-do lists and are overly focused on power and money as the markers of success rather than internal aliveness.

As an executive coach and psychotherapist, I work with the burnout and disillusionment that Arianna talks about. Too many people in our culture are wearing their long hours at work as badges of honor, believing that climbing the corporate ladder will lead to fulfillment and that what they produce is the measure of who they are. I, too, have been guilty of feeling like the barometer of my goodness is how much time I put into my work. When I was in college, I took pride in how many hours a day I read, as if the hours spent were a reflection of my moral superiority over my classmates who were playing frisbee on the quad. Only years later did I identify my learning differences that make my reading slower than other people, and that my time with my head in the books was more about my slow brain rather than my greater intellectual prowess. That was too bad; I lost out on a lot of fun.

Read More…

Empowerment Comes From Checking In, Not Checking Out

It happened again this week, as it does way too often. I was sitting in a leadership coaching session when my client proclaimed “I’ll just distract myself like I usually do.” To some, her solution to being spoken to disrespectfully may sound rather innocuous, it was no biggie. But in reality, distracting ourselves from something that is legitimately upsetting, can lead us to tune out and cut off from understanding the situation at hand, weakening our ability to effectively manage it. When we stay aware of what’s upsetting us, we increase the likelihood that we can become wiser and more strategic in knowing how to deal with it.

Many bosses in workplaces, parents in homes and partners in relationships are unaware of the way they impact other people, including the…

Click to read more

Success Requires Grit and Resilience

Parents often wonder what they can do to boost the likelihood that their kids will grow into successful adults. One thing for sure that doesn’t help is when parents get fearful of dealing with their children’s emotion and instead give in to quick fixes for getting a child to be calm or happy.
Author and pediatrician Dr. Ken Ginsburg points out that young people gain resilience when “an adult believes in them unconditionally and holds them to high expectations.” He notes that “adolescents are harmed by both unfairly low and impossibly high expectations… and that they need to develop the capacity to realistically assess situations so they do not incorporate self-destructive messages or view uncomfortable situations as true crises.” To do this, young people need their parents to hold steady in the face of high emotional reactivity, set limits and follow through with consequences.


Tips for Building Presentation Confidence

No matter how seasoned you may be at public speaking, when it comes to making presentations, it’s really common to experience increased levels of anticipatory anxiety. Mark Twain once said, “There are two kinds of speakers: those that are nervous and those that are liars.” Here is a great resource, chock full of strategies for lowering stress levels & increase your confidence and boosting the likelihood of positive results.

Click to Download (PDF)